Yeah, right. Have you ever heard anyone say they just went through a "beautiful divorce." Nope, me either. It's usually described as "ugly, horrible, or mabye just draining," or if they were spared, maybe it was really decent and amiable....but it's still a divorce. Divorce leaves that scar that doesn't heal. I ran into a guy on mother's day in 7-11 and he said "happy mother's day." He explained that he got a "happy mother's day" call too that morning, because he's a single dad....he said, "don't ever let it happen to your family...." I can only imagine his loss, grief, shame and pain. And the kids.....what happens to them in it all? Maybe they come through it and seem un-phased, however, we have to admit that they have their scars, even if they are hidden and don't surface until much later in life. What to do? How do we prevent divorce in our marriages?
I think there are some Biblical principles that lay some protective groundwork:
*Love-put the other person's interests and desires before your own (lay down your life for your friend...)
*Serve-figure out what blesses your spouse and repeat it often!
*Pray-regularly for your spouse and with your spouse
*Share-when you struggle to find what you need from your spouse, get help. Talk to a friend or pastor or counselor; don't ignore it, it won't go away!
*Kiss goodbye in the morning, say "I love you" often and tell them what you admire and appreciate about them
*say "I'm sorry" when you fail them, and ask for forgiveness; "will you forgive me" is the high road to take, even though it seems hard to say, the Bible says that if you humble yourself you will be exalted in due time!
*Pray for a new love for your spouse and a new "joy" in being with them if you've lost your sparks.......God wants marriages to work, He WILL answer this prayer!
May God bless each of you richly with a "beautiful marriage."
Great advice!!
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